It is so difficult today for three related reasons. (Obviously there are exceptions, but broadly speaking the following holds):
1. Women today spend their sexual market peak years chasing 'fun experiences' with guys at the peak of the sexual market place. Rich guys and physically attractive guys (e.g. the three 6s). But, there are far few…
It is so difficult today for three related reasons. (Obviously there are exceptions, but broadly speaking the following holds):
1. Women today spend their sexual market peak years chasing 'fun experiences' with guys at the peak of the sexual market place. Rich guys and physically attractive guys (e.g. the three 6s). But, there are far fewer of these guys than there are beautiful 23 year olds. Because social media (more on that in #3) has opened up the world of options, you have a situation where 10% of the guys are getting 80% of the women's attention. And women are fine with sharing the 10%ers. So most women get to have their fun experiences, and a lot of men get shut out of the sexual market altogether during these key years that used to be spent as, idk, newlyweds and young parents. But for a small segment of men? Life's never been better.
2. Then, when women decide they want to settle down or find a husband they have totally screwed themselves (figuratively and literally) because when that day rolls around they are (i) no longer at the peak of their sexual market value but (ii) won't settle for anything less than the type of guy they had all their 'fun experiences' with. Of course, what's in it for that guy? He's swimming in women who are at their absolute peak. He's going to settle down for some 30 year old (or older) who has been run through by everyone when he can just, idk, continue to run through beautiful 20 somethings himself? LOLOLOLOL. But if these women who want to settle down look for a guy who is more at their present level, well, he's never going to match up to the ideal that she's created in her mind (and felt between her legs for all her 20s). So that's not going to work, either.
3. Social media is the accelerant for this. 52 years ago what was the realistic universe of potential dates for your and your wife? Whatever it was, it wasn't like today where a moderately attractive woman in a decent sized city can put herself out there on instagram or a dating app and have hundreds of guys thirsting over her immediately. It screws up women's minds, expectations, etc.
It is so difficult today for three related reasons. (Obviously there are exceptions, but broadly speaking the following holds):
1. Women today spend their sexual market peak years chasing 'fun experiences' with guys at the peak of the sexual market place. Rich guys and physically attractive guys (e.g. the three 6s). But, there are far fewer of these guys than there are beautiful 23 year olds. Because social media (more on that in #3) has opened up the world of options, you have a situation where 10% of the guys are getting 80% of the women's attention. And women are fine with sharing the 10%ers. So most women get to have their fun experiences, and a lot of men get shut out of the sexual market altogether during these key years that used to be spent as, idk, newlyweds and young parents. But for a small segment of men? Life's never been better.
2. Then, when women decide they want to settle down or find a husband they have totally screwed themselves (figuratively and literally) because when that day rolls around they are (i) no longer at the peak of their sexual market value but (ii) won't settle for anything less than the type of guy they had all their 'fun experiences' with. Of course, what's in it for that guy? He's swimming in women who are at their absolute peak. He's going to settle down for some 30 year old (or older) who has been run through by everyone when he can just, idk, continue to run through beautiful 20 somethings himself? LOLOLOLOL. But if these women who want to settle down look for a guy who is more at their present level, well, he's never going to match up to the ideal that she's created in her mind (and felt between her legs for all her 20s). So that's not going to work, either.
3. Social media is the accelerant for this. 52 years ago what was the realistic universe of potential dates for your and your wife? Whatever it was, it wasn't like today where a moderately attractive woman in a decent sized city can put herself out there on instagram or a dating app and have hundreds of guys thirsting over her immediately. It screws up women's minds, expectations, etc.