A city known for being filled with single young women on the make. In days gone by that was a "target rich environment." Now it's nothing but a minefield strewn with the lunatics you described.
A city known for being filled with single young women on the make. In days gone by that was a "target rich environment." Now it's nothing but a minefield strewn with the lunatics you described.
I thought you were married. I must be thinking of Brian. Who was it that took his grandchildren to Paris? Brian? and where is Brian. We haven't heard from him in a while.
I'm not sure if I'm the Brian to whom you're referring. But I've been busy with work this week trying to make sure I maintain at least the third '6'. Though I'm not sure what it matters since I fall 1/2 inch short in one of the other categories, so I'm seemingly out of luck if I have to go back on the dating market.
When I went back to college, I went to a target rich environment. It was called the girls' dorm. I met my future wife on a blind date. We have been happily married for 53 years.
If you don't go fishing, you don't catch fish.
The men described in this article, to me, sound like timid losers. Grow a backbone and ask out a woman you know. That is how it was done before dating apps were around.
Go out on a blind date. If it doesn't work out, try, try again. Success does not belong to the timid.
Yeah, you're right. I wouldn't want to pass on something that actually worked to desperate people who are doing things that don't work. Let's keep up a culture of failure and not try proven techniques.
I don't think the quality of men have changed in the last fifty years. Why would today's generation, if they grew up fifty years ago, be any different from the men in your time, or the men 100, 1000, 10000 years ago? I know the best success I've had with women is when I stop thinking, rely on my gut, and make a move. I'm sure it's the same for every guy. But the truth is there has never been a world in which so many women make more money than men, and a lot of them, honestly, make money just for being women.
Army. The funniest thing is my unit has an absurd number of false accusations regarding SHARP/Equal Opportunity, so I have a first-hand look at the kind of insanity going on that may not even be imaginable to anyone who previously served.
It worked 50+ years ago with an entirely different generation. You know full well things have changed all over the place. And yet your advice is "Do it the way we did". I am not actually saying some of your advice doesn't have merit. I actually agree that women are attracted to manly-men. But you in no way acknowledge that the field has changed a bit since you were last out there. Many women now believe that manly traits are toxic (even while being attracted to it). So of course young men are confused and hesitant. I mean, we are talking about a modern culture that seriously has (had?) people talking about signing consent forms before a date.
Besides, this article isn't just about getting a date. It is about how some women seem to have changed their expectations of men. And how the changed status of women today (compared to 50 years ago) has also changed the dating dynamic.
I do apologize for being overly snarky. But I felt like your post was equally dismissive and thus responded the way I did.
53 years ago. Lololol. Maybe when you are done with dating advice you can tell us how to pay for a couple semesters of college with enough money left over to cover all the dates you found at the woman's dorm from your summer newspaper route.
Lonesome, my husband and I met at work 43 years ago when the world was very different. I avoided dating anyone at work up to the point he walked in and we both knew we were "it". We married while still working together and I stayed until the birth of our first child. It saddens me to realize that in today's HR climate we very well may have missed out on our 40+ years of marriage. Work used to be a place where one could meet potential partners but no longer - too many risks especially for the men.
I remember in college a particularly beautiful young woman was being squired around on the arm of a sleazy loser. A bunch of us guys were speculating about how she ended up going out with him. And a female friend, on overhearing the speculation, interjected "because he asked her, you idiots." Oh.
I remember a similar story from my college days. Turns out the super hot chick was so hot that almost everyone was too intimidated to ask her out. But that was a different era.
Way too late in life for me to experiment. Even though I was fully a part of the NYC 80s madness, never indulged. There were too many other temptations... lol
A city known for being filled with single young women on the make. In days gone by that was a "target rich environment." Now it's nothing but a minefield strewn with the lunatics you described.
666 rule - Whoever made that rule up must have been talking about you, me, Kevin and Brian but not compro.
Don't get too excited girls. Bruce and I are married but you can still dream.
LOL! Thanks LP!
Married? Me? lol
Speaking of Kevin....... This topic would be red meat for him
I thought you were married. I must be thinking of Brian. Who was it that took his grandchildren to Paris? Brian? and where is Brian. We haven't heard from him in a while.
I'm not sure if I'm the Brian to whom you're referring. But I've been busy with work this week trying to make sure I maintain at least the third '6'. Though I'm not sure what it matters since I fall 1/2 inch short in one of the other categories, so I'm seemingly out of luck if I have to go back on the dating market.
If you are the long time poster on tis BBS, you're the Brian I'm talking about.
I've been subscribing to the Free Press for a few months and usually comment on 2-4 articles per week. Certainly, I'm not as prolific as some.
I took my grandkids to Rome last year. I have four children - 2 girls, 2 boys and 5 grandchildren. But no longer married.
Rome, Paris. They are both foreign and don't speak American. It's hard to keep all these foreigners straight.
I like both cities but I am partial to Rome, better food.
I can't wait to see his response.
When I went back to college, I went to a target rich environment. It was called the girls' dorm. I met my future wife on a blind date. We have been happily married for 53 years.
If you don't go fishing, you don't catch fish.
The men described in this article, to me, sound like timid losers. Grow a backbone and ask out a woman you know. That is how it was done before dating apps were around.
Go out on a blind date. If it doesn't work out, try, try again. Success does not belong to the timid.
Face it. What woman wants to marry a wimp?
This is what we need more of. People who haven't dated in over half a century telling young men what they are doing wrong.
It appears the young men need advice from someone who cares.
Very snarky
And Sghoul wasn't snarky?
I must have missed that lol
Yeah, you're right. I wouldn't want to pass on something that actually worked to desperate people who are doing things that don't work. Let's keep up a culture of failure and not try proven techniques.
You are a real sage, a font of wisdom.
I don't think the quality of men have changed in the last fifty years. Why would today's generation, if they grew up fifty years ago, be any different from the men in your time, or the men 100, 1000, 10000 years ago? I know the best success I've had with women is when I stop thinking, rely on my gut, and make a move. I'm sure it's the same for every guy. But the truth is there has never been a world in which so many women make more money than men, and a lot of them, honestly, make money just for being women.
Active duty, which branch?
Army. The funniest thing is my unit has an absurd number of false accusations regarding SHARP/Equal Opportunity, so I have a first-hand look at the kind of insanity going on that may not even be imaginable to anyone who previously served.
The spectacle of a bunch of female senior NCOs of color filing EEO claims against each other must be witnessed to be believed.
Yeah that didn't happen in the 80's lol.
I spent three years in - airborne.
It worked 50+ years ago with an entirely different generation. You know full well things have changed all over the place. And yet your advice is "Do it the way we did". I am not actually saying some of your advice doesn't have merit. I actually agree that women are attracted to manly-men. But you in no way acknowledge that the field has changed a bit since you were last out there. Many women now believe that manly traits are toxic (even while being attracted to it). So of course young men are confused and hesitant. I mean, we are talking about a modern culture that seriously has (had?) people talking about signing consent forms before a date.
Besides, this article isn't just about getting a date. It is about how some women seem to have changed their expectations of men. And how the changed status of women today (compared to 50 years ago) has also changed the dating dynamic.
I do apologize for being overly snarky. But I felt like your post was equally dismissive and thus responded the way I did.
Thanks, I appreciate your remarks.
53 years ago. Lololol. Maybe when you are done with dating advice you can tell us how to pay for a couple semesters of college with enough money left over to cover all the dates you found at the woman's dorm from your summer newspaper route.
Thank you for your kind words.
I do not think it is that simple anymore LP. It would get you a visit to HR, a post on the creepy guy site, . . ..
Lynne, I am not saying ask someone at work. I'm saying ask a woman you know or have met outside of work.
There is an old saying about workplace romances, "You don't shit where you eat."
Crude but on the money.
Before "me too," the workplace had replaced the church as the most common place for people to meet and start dating.
True. Sorry for the misread.
Nothing to be sorry about. In today's PC/Woke climate it is dangerous to your welfare to date at work and if the relationship goes south, awkward.
Can't date a coworker now. Too dangerous for your career. IF you are a woman you can ask but not if you are a guy. No way.
Lonesome, my husband and I met at work 43 years ago when the world was very different. I avoided dating anyone at work up to the point he walked in and we both knew we were "it". We married while still working together and I stayed until the birth of our first child. It saddens me to realize that in today's HR climate we very well may have missed out on our 40+ years of marriage. Work used to be a place where one could meet potential partners but no longer - too many risks especially for the men.
I remember in college a particularly beautiful young woman was being squired around on the arm of a sleazy loser. A bunch of us guys were speculating about how she ended up going out with him. And a female friend, on overhearing the speculation, interjected "because he asked her, you idiots." Oh.
Hilarious! Cue Elvis Costello. "Is she really going out with him?"
That was Joe Jackson. A much better singer.
I remember a similar story from my college days. Turns out the super hot chick was so hot that almost everyone was too intimidated to ask her out. But that was a different era.
Cocaine seems also often to play a role, in my observation.
Way too late in life for me to experiment. Even though I was fully a part of the NYC 80s madness, never indulged. There were too many other temptations... lol
Exactly.
Yes!!!
You have described DC perfectly.