You at least sound like you practice what you preach. Growing up gay in a conservative town, I heard nothing but how sinful I was--from people who were on their 3rd marriage in many cases, from people who everyone knew were having affairs, etc. For a very long time, I became a cynic and learned that those who piously preach morality at o…
You at least sound like you practice what you preach. Growing up gay in a conservative town, I heard nothing but how sinful I was--from people who were on their 3rd marriage in many cases, from people who everyone knew were having affairs, etc. For a very long time, I became a cynic and learned that those who piously preach morality at others are often covering and trying to hide their own transgressions.
Social Media, especially Twitter, is an utter waste of time. It's an anger factory where you have to take a side. If you show any nuance at all, you're lumped into the right-wing or left-wing bucket, or ignored altogether. Everyone is better off never logging into Twitter, Tik Tok, or any of the social media platforms.
Since turning 40, I've met many people similar to you who sound like they ARE living honest lives and involved with their community out of a desire to help so I've softened a bit in terms of being open to people who disagree with me, but after finally getting to marry my spouse (yes, I do like that word) after 20+ years together, I will fight to keep MY family intact as I'm sure you would do for your own.
For as long as I can remember, I have pretty much gone my own way. I am pretty much supportive of any one who is the same. People needing to recruit others to their own point of view, is all around us. They have stopped talking to me because I don’t want to be recruited to their cause, that’s their loss. And in my opinion at least pretty in mature.
It sounds as if you have reached some sort of accomodation with people around you. I’m glad for you as it can be tough being different. But at the same time it defines who you are.
Just like any friendships and acquaintanceships, you learn that there are some topics you just don't talk about because you'll never agree. I'm in a unique situation that I think is rare in the U.S. these days. My town is split almost evenly between R's and D's. Most people are middle of the road and we just don't talk politics. It also helps that the main concern is keeping the roads paved and clean, maintaining the parks, and having a good police and fire department. That doesn't leave a lot of time for grandstanding about transgender issues or building a wall with Mexico.
You at least sound like you practice what you preach. Growing up gay in a conservative town, I heard nothing but how sinful I was--from people who were on their 3rd marriage in many cases, from people who everyone knew were having affairs, etc. For a very long time, I became a cynic and learned that those who piously preach morality at others are often covering and trying to hide their own transgressions.
Social Media, especially Twitter, is an utter waste of time. It's an anger factory where you have to take a side. If you show any nuance at all, you're lumped into the right-wing or left-wing bucket, or ignored altogether. Everyone is better off never logging into Twitter, Tik Tok, or any of the social media platforms.
Since turning 40, I've met many people similar to you who sound like they ARE living honest lives and involved with their community out of a desire to help so I've softened a bit in terms of being open to people who disagree with me, but after finally getting to marry my spouse (yes, I do like that word) after 20+ years together, I will fight to keep MY family intact as I'm sure you would do for your own.
For as long as I can remember, I have pretty much gone my own way. I am pretty much supportive of any one who is the same. People needing to recruit others to their own point of view, is all around us. They have stopped talking to me because I don’t want to be recruited to their cause, that’s their loss. And in my opinion at least pretty in mature.
It sounds as if you have reached some sort of accomodation with people around you. I’m glad for you as it can be tough being different. But at the same time it defines who you are.
Just like any friendships and acquaintanceships, you learn that there are some topics you just don't talk about because you'll never agree. I'm in a unique situation that I think is rare in the U.S. these days. My town is split almost evenly between R's and D's. Most people are middle of the road and we just don't talk politics. It also helps that the main concern is keeping the roads paved and clean, maintaining the parks, and having a good police and fire department. That doesn't leave a lot of time for grandstanding about transgender issues or building a wall with Mexico.