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You want to get married - join your church singles young adult groups. Both my nieces meet their husbands through church.

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ā€œMe Tarzan, you girl boss, no carry youā€ You are screwed by how you framed the conversation.

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Good advice Rob. I canā€™t imagine a guy not paying. Then again I canā€™t imagine dating in this era.

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I continually enjoy Oliver Wiseman and don't expect that to change.

But I originally signed up for TFP, expecting to hear more from Barri. Yes, I get Honestly and her other guest spots. Should I adjust my expectations?

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I suspect the substack side is dying (e.g. canā€™t even find all FP content) and we have to go to the website to read more Bari by choice. Iā€™ve also noticed sheā€™s doing a lot of podcasts so look her up there.

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Wow, I'm glad Ben is gay. Enough straight men who sound just as bitter and down on themselves as he is. Are there gay incels? Because he sounds like one. Look, I don't care if you're gay or straight, not everyone is looking for a movie star. Do the best with whatever God or your parents' genes gave you. If you look like you care about yourself and how you look (you don't have to be all GQ) you'll already be light-years ahead of your competition. Some good-looking men hide it well with a slovenly appearance ;( They clean up later and you're like, "Holy crap! I didn't know X was such a nice-looking guy!"

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So....it seems MAGA dudes are upset women won't bang them?

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So you didnā€™t read the article yet you pay to be here? Why?

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Settling for a spouse is a dual universe. Both parties have the good and the bad. There is nothing entitled about excepting reality of yourself and your spouse. Personally, I've been humbled too many times to have much ego let alone entitlement.

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OMG....how dare people not copulate/have a family with those that do not share their values, norms, beliefs, worldview, etc.

That's rude!

MAGA dudes, date the MAGA women.

Non-MAGA, date the non-MAGA women.

Easy. Problem solved.

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Your idea of invititing available Pressers to write in is a service to humanity and huwomanity. Well done, Sam! We need more sensible people in this crazy world and ito that end we need more Pressers making babies! Also, who doesn't love love? Happy Valentine's Day! šŸ’•

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Woman: If you have sex with me and I get pregnant, do you think I should have a say in what happens afterwards?

Man: No.

Woman: Ok, so...you're willing to pay child support from the moment of conception?

Man: No.

Woman: Do you think it's ok not being a "trad wife" and will you support my education and career goals?

Man: No

Woman: Do you think it is socially, economically, politically easier to be a white male in America?

Male: No

Woman: Do you think all non-whites are unqualified and only employed due to DEI?

Man: Yes

Woman: Do you think the election was stolen from Trump?

Man: Yes.

Woman: Do you think Trump has treated/shows respect for women?

Man: Yes.

Woman: Ok....thanks....best of luck, but I think we're not a match.

Man: Woke-ass bitch won't give me no p-ssy!! F-ck you!

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ā€œYour hot takes wonā€™t keep you warm at nightā€. Best line of the entire post šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

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Isn't it all about commitment? If you can't commit to another person and make it work, you're never going to succeed in business or any other endeavor. Selfishness has its costs.

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You want some dating advice? Let me add on to what Rob said.

What do I see from my therapy clients? They use Tinder Bumble and Hinge. They all complain they donā€™t work and there is a general refusal to try anything else. Try something else too. Perhaps a dating service you have to pay for will filter out those who arenā€™t serious.

Guys, donā€™t pose with a dead animal in your photos. She doesnā€™t want to see your fish or the Buck you just shot. Have you ever met a woman before? Try posing with a living creature if there must be an animal present. Not a dead one.

Avoid slick pick up lines. Only chronically single people are good at that. The person that commits for years at a time wonā€™t have ā€œgame.ā€ Talk to the awkward folks.

Meet people in person. I always tell my single clients I almost didnā€™t go on the first date with my wife. We met on eHarmony in 2014. Some of her photos were a bitā€¦ unflatteringā€¦. (Iā€™ve told her this story and she didnā€™t leave me) But I was like fuck it, Iā€™ve got no plans this weekend iā€™ll go on a date. Then she walked in and Boom! The rest is history, ten years together this year, married, we have a toddler, and the next one on the way.

Dating means going on dates not swiping. Meet people.

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Advice to all: be yourself, share yourself. The best matches aren't about what meets the eye. Long relationships are when real people meet real people; so, be open about who you are and count on meeting someone who is the same. Married 50 years last November.

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"Even worse: heā€™s a straight ā€œnon-MAGA Republicanā€ looking for love in the year 2024."

That's a deal breaker for me. If he's not for making America great again, Sam can buy his own Valentine's gift.

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Romance has become way too complicated. Just respect each other's talents and don't worry about whether it is a man's role or a woman's role. Just be and enjoy! This is cliche for me to say but it is true... for those that are single - don't despair - it took me a long time to find "the one" and it was worth the wait!

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