My heart hurt hearing Noah say they couldn’t handle being perceived as female and felt much better once society perceived them as male. Do…do they not know? Even those who play along don’t perceive them as the opposite sex. They will tell them they do, they will affirm them so hard it hurts. But. If Noah thinks people hear that tell-tale…
My heart hurt hearing Noah say they couldn’t handle being perceived as female and felt much better once society perceived them as male.
Do…do they not know? Even those who play along don’t perceive them as the opposite sex. They will tell them they do, they will affirm them so hard it hurts. But. If Noah thinks people hear that tell-tale unnatural pitch that all trans men seem to have and they don’t know he’s a trans person who was born female, they are not operating in reality and are suffering from a delusion.
Yesterday I unintentionally hurt someone so badly and I wanted to disappear on the spot. At Ikea, as a short, curvy, clearly born female person with the aforementioned voice pitch, a short hair-cut and an oddly very long but wispy patchy beard, was helping us out. Giant yellow pronoun pin on shirt: “He/Him” on shirt. You could not have been more aware this person wanted to be perceived as a man. And I intended to perceive them that way.
Then as we are talking my toddler starts yanking on my pants. Then my son starts whining as we oearn he wanted was out out of stock.
In total frenzied mom state I take my attention off the worker and start mothering my bickering kids before they started to annoy others.
And I’m talking to my son I said, “yes but she said……
HE said. He said it would probably be back in stock soon.”
In my periphery I saw this employee’s shoulders sag. The smile faded.
I was so freaking flustered I hurried my kids right out of that section as my color rose and I felt like a total scumbag.”
If this employee or Noah or Natalie really tie their psychological health and well-being to my genuinely perceiving them as their desired gender, not the pretend patronizing “playing along” I’m always willing to do but able to fuck up the moment my toddler distracts me, if their lives depend on this, then transition will never save them. They need intensive and compassionate support to help them stabilize and come to terms that they are and always will be their birth sex.
Dylan Mulvaney has spent a fortune. They look beautiful and put together. But on their best day with all the plastic surgery, make up and wardrobe, we KNOW. And on my worst day, no make up, hair hidden under a cap, wearing a t shirt and jeans I will never be mistaken for a man. Will zero effort to look or act feminine people will just KNOW I’m a woman.
My heart hurt hearing Noah say they couldn’t handle being perceived as female and felt much better once society perceived them as male.
Do…do they not know? Even those who play along don’t perceive them as the opposite sex. They will tell them they do, they will affirm them so hard it hurts. But. If Noah thinks people hear that tell-tale unnatural pitch that all trans men seem to have and they don’t know he’s a trans person who was born female, they are not operating in reality and are suffering from a delusion.
Yesterday I unintentionally hurt someone so badly and I wanted to disappear on the spot. At Ikea, as a short, curvy, clearly born female person with the aforementioned voice pitch, a short hair-cut and an oddly very long but wispy patchy beard, was helping us out. Giant yellow pronoun pin on shirt: “He/Him” on shirt. You could not have been more aware this person wanted to be perceived as a man. And I intended to perceive them that way.
Then as we are talking my toddler starts yanking on my pants. Then my son starts whining as we oearn he wanted was out out of stock.
In total frenzied mom state I take my attention off the worker and start mothering my bickering kids before they started to annoy others.
And I’m talking to my son I said, “yes but she said……
HE said. He said it would probably be back in stock soon.”
In my periphery I saw this employee’s shoulders sag. The smile faded.
I was so freaking flustered I hurried my kids right out of that section as my color rose and I felt like a total scumbag.”
If this employee or Noah or Natalie really tie their psychological health and well-being to my genuinely perceiving them as their desired gender, not the pretend patronizing “playing along” I’m always willing to do but able to fuck up the moment my toddler distracts me, if their lives depend on this, then transition will never save them. They need intensive and compassionate support to help them stabilize and come to terms that they are and always will be their birth sex.
Dylan Mulvaney has spent a fortune. They look beautiful and put together. But on their best day with all the plastic surgery, make up and wardrobe, we KNOW. And on my worst day, no make up, hair hidden under a cap, wearing a t shirt and jeans I will never be mistaken for a man. Will zero effort to look or act feminine people will just KNOW I’m a woman.