Hello! Thank you for respectfully disagreeing. I want to first start out by saying your statement is based on legality terms. Meaning whatever the law deems is acceptable or not. Legality doesn't always equal factuality nor reality based on science.
An 17-18 year old is still teenager and mentally, emotionally, and physically underdevelop…
Hello! Thank you for respectfully disagreeing. I want to first start out by saying your statement is based on legality terms. Meaning whatever the law deems is acceptable or not. Legality doesn't always equal factuality nor reality based on science.
An 17-18 year old is still teenager and mentally, emotionally, and physically underdeveloped. That's why I said child erotica.
The law in many countries has the age of consent for adulthood and sex as low as 9 years of age. In Malysia, the age of consent is 9-10 years of age and in many Islamic countries the age of consent for sex is as low as 8 years of age. This is legal.
Legality doesn't always allign with rationality, logic, morality, reality and science. There are also books, poems, and pictures of kids being featured in that way and the defense of that is "well their doing it anyway" or "it's realistic representation". I don't deny many children go through that especially based on the cultural, societal, and family structure they were raised in, however it should be taken into caution not to capitalize on that or hypersexualize/normalize those behaviors as ok, good, normal, justifiable, or not a big deal in art.
In many books like Gender Queer and many of Judy Blum books the ages of the characters ranger from 11-17 years of age and feature sexual imagery. That's child erotica no matter what the intent was and participates in the normalization of teens being viewed as adults, normalization of blame being put on them in situations like grooming or sexual assault, children viewing themselves as old enough to participate in adult activity which is sex, mental desentivity, child on child rape, dissociation, hypersexuality or disinterest in sex in adult years as well as the struggle to bond right in adult years if proper help isn't installed. That's why I made my comment.
A 20 year old and up are actual adults . I'm not basing this on legality which is simply what the law dictates as acceptable and lawful. I'm basing that on biology. A 20 year old woman and man are adults. Their bodies are fully developed and capable to handles the complexitues of sex and the about to properly consent to it, and not just doing it to feel good.
If parents, guardians, and teachers were a little more informed. They'd talk to their kids while their young within their mental and biological maturity about sex, their bodies, and what to expect as well as encouraging them to wait until adulthood in their 20 and up so they can make the proper informed descions.
Furthermore, I also left in my comment that we should not depend on fictional authors to be the navigating guide to help girls into womanhood or be content on being girls. Fictional authors write from their point of view and intergect whether a character will experience dire consequences of their actions or not, like the book Forever in which the characters did not experience dire consequences.
We are in a tech savy age where we can find actual child and teen psychologists for free and female Psychologist that discuss the joy of entering into womanhood with humor and relatability. I suggested a research psychologist named Sarah E Hill who's on Instagram and YouTube. She has stuff for teen girls/women and discusses these things and how to remember to show yourself grace and to normalize that behavior for yourselves even if no does.
The same goes with a Instagram profile named Defend Young Minds that discusses the nesscity of talking to kids/ teens about sex and how to have age appropriate conversations with them about their bodies.
When I was a teen I was introduced to young adult books then was introduced to sexual literature and smut literature. I was allowed to do this due to my appearance of maturity, but wasn't biologically mature enough for sexual literature.
My mature appearance of behavior was simply me adapting to my environment thus giving off a mature vibe but wasn't. Now as a woman I learn from my mistakes and practing not repeating them nor letting a child imitate them or enage in what I use to do, so that as adults, they won't make descions based on desentivity, dissociation, trauma, impulsiveness disguised as normality.
They will be able to make better descions using logic, rationality, love, and compassion for people and not view them as objects for their pleasure...or they will choose as adults to do their own thing, and if they do, their responsibille for themselves and will at least have mentally ingrained life skills to fall back on.
There are some people who argue that “people’s brains aren’t mature until they’re 25, so if their brains aren’t mature, they can’t consent to sex.” We could go back and forth about what constitutes the “real” age of adulthood, but for legal purposes, there has to be some type of consensus, at least for a particular jurisdiction. I don’t think 20-year-olds are necessarily more physically developed than 18-year-olds. I had pretty much the exact same body, in terms of physical maturity - height, weight, bra size, menstrual cycle pattern - from 16 until I got pregnant at 27. People develop at different rates, but nearly everyone is done with puberty at 18, and as for emotional maturity and life skills, those things vary so much from person to person.
I was raised in a Catholic family where my mother (speaking for both herself and my father) emphasized that sex was a very serious thing and something that should wait until after marriage. “Forever” by Judy Blume actually helped convince me that teenage sex was a bad idea. Michael gave me the creeps - ugh, referring to his penis as “Ralph”! - and it struck me as so tragic that Katherine had put so much thought and emotion into the decision of whether to have sex with him, only to have the two of them break up within months. I didn’t want to be Katherine. I didn’t want to share the most intimate parts of my body with someone - to actually let him inside my body - and then realize I didn’t want to be with him forever. I’m now married and my husband is the only sexual partner I’ve ever had, and vice versa. We’re very happy.
Hello! Thank you for respectfully disagreeing. I want to first start out by saying your statement is based on legality terms. Meaning whatever the law deems is acceptable or not. Legality doesn't always equal factuality nor reality based on science.
An 17-18 year old is still teenager and mentally, emotionally, and physically underdeveloped. That's why I said child erotica.
The law in many countries has the age of consent for adulthood and sex as low as 9 years of age. In Malysia, the age of consent is 9-10 years of age and in many Islamic countries the age of consent for sex is as low as 8 years of age. This is legal.
Legality doesn't always allign with rationality, logic, morality, reality and science. There are also books, poems, and pictures of kids being featured in that way and the defense of that is "well their doing it anyway" or "it's realistic representation". I don't deny many children go through that especially based on the cultural, societal, and family structure they were raised in, however it should be taken into caution not to capitalize on that or hypersexualize/normalize those behaviors as ok, good, normal, justifiable, or not a big deal in art.
In many books like Gender Queer and many of Judy Blum books the ages of the characters ranger from 11-17 years of age and feature sexual imagery. That's child erotica no matter what the intent was and participates in the normalization of teens being viewed as adults, normalization of blame being put on them in situations like grooming or sexual assault, children viewing themselves as old enough to participate in adult activity which is sex, mental desentivity, child on child rape, dissociation, hypersexuality or disinterest in sex in adult years as well as the struggle to bond right in adult years if proper help isn't installed. That's why I made my comment.
A 20 year old and up are actual adults . I'm not basing this on legality which is simply what the law dictates as acceptable and lawful. I'm basing that on biology. A 20 year old woman and man are adults. Their bodies are fully developed and capable to handles the complexitues of sex and the about to properly consent to it, and not just doing it to feel good.
If parents, guardians, and teachers were a little more informed. They'd talk to their kids while their young within their mental and biological maturity about sex, their bodies, and what to expect as well as encouraging them to wait until adulthood in their 20 and up so they can make the proper informed descions.
Furthermore, I also left in my comment that we should not depend on fictional authors to be the navigating guide to help girls into womanhood or be content on being girls. Fictional authors write from their point of view and intergect whether a character will experience dire consequences of their actions or not, like the book Forever in which the characters did not experience dire consequences.
We are in a tech savy age where we can find actual child and teen psychologists for free and female Psychologist that discuss the joy of entering into womanhood with humor and relatability. I suggested a research psychologist named Sarah E Hill who's on Instagram and YouTube. She has stuff for teen girls/women and discusses these things and how to remember to show yourself grace and to normalize that behavior for yourselves even if no does.
The same goes with a Instagram profile named Defend Young Minds that discusses the nesscity of talking to kids/ teens about sex and how to have age appropriate conversations with them about their bodies.
When I was a teen I was introduced to young adult books then was introduced to sexual literature and smut literature. I was allowed to do this due to my appearance of maturity, but wasn't biologically mature enough for sexual literature.
My mature appearance of behavior was simply me adapting to my environment thus giving off a mature vibe but wasn't. Now as a woman I learn from my mistakes and practing not repeating them nor letting a child imitate them or enage in what I use to do, so that as adults, they won't make descions based on desentivity, dissociation, trauma, impulsiveness disguised as normality.
They will be able to make better descions using logic, rationality, love, and compassion for people and not view them as objects for their pleasure...or they will choose as adults to do their own thing, and if they do, their responsibille for themselves and will at least have mentally ingrained life skills to fall back on.
There are some people who argue that “people’s brains aren’t mature until they’re 25, so if their brains aren’t mature, they can’t consent to sex.” We could go back and forth about what constitutes the “real” age of adulthood, but for legal purposes, there has to be some type of consensus, at least for a particular jurisdiction. I don’t think 20-year-olds are necessarily more physically developed than 18-year-olds. I had pretty much the exact same body, in terms of physical maturity - height, weight, bra size, menstrual cycle pattern - from 16 until I got pregnant at 27. People develop at different rates, but nearly everyone is done with puberty at 18, and as for emotional maturity and life skills, those things vary so much from person to person.
I was raised in a Catholic family where my mother (speaking for both herself and my father) emphasized that sex was a very serious thing and something that should wait until after marriage. “Forever” by Judy Blume actually helped convince me that teenage sex was a bad idea. Michael gave me the creeps - ugh, referring to his penis as “Ralph”! - and it struck me as so tragic that Katherine had put so much thought and emotion into the decision of whether to have sex with him, only to have the two of them break up within months. I didn’t want to be Katherine. I didn’t want to share the most intimate parts of my body with someone - to actually let him inside my body - and then realize I didn’t want to be with him forever. I’m now married and my husband is the only sexual partner I’ve ever had, and vice versa. We’re very happy.