I agree with literature expression, but I disagree with the normality and hypersexualiation of teen sex and teen sexual development. This article is a little bizarre to me, but I respect everyones right to an opinion. I simply wanted to input that I agree that teenage sexual development in fiction should be handled alot better for futureā¦
I agree with literature expression, but I disagree with the normality and hypersexualiation of teen sex and teen sexual development. This article is a little bizarre to me, but I respect everyones right to an opinion. I simply wanted to input that I agree that teenage sexual development in fiction should be handled alot better for future generations, especially for girls as they enter into puberty.
However , I think it's ludicrous to give an underdeveloped human being that's still going through puberty and is mentally underveloped, highly emotional due to them entering the emotional phase of puberty and still figuring out who they are fictional books on teens "experimenting" with sexuality and trying to figure themselves out.
Teenage minds are like sponges and emotions tend to take the highroad over logic more than we can count at times, and defending a fictional book that has teen sex which should be really called 'child erotica'' regardless of it intent is no different than extreme liberals defending the "Gender Queer" book that was published and given out to minors regardless of parental permission.
The Gender Queer book featured gay "responsible" and "consensual" sex between 11-13 year old boys in pictures and writing as well as the normality of teen sexual curiosity. The justification of the Gender Queer book is similar to this article defense of Judy Blum books, which is "REALISTIC REPRESENTATION OF adolescent coming of age".
No matter the intent, one needs to be careful what they give to kids as it will have an affect on their still developing psyche and behavior.
I can better appreciate Judy Blum as an adult woman who can better separate fiction from reality and expectation from reality. A discussion should be had with teenagers while their young from the parent/ guardian, doctor and in some cases teachers on the realities of womanhood and what to expect when entering it, as well as sensitivity to one self as they go through it not defending or advocating for authors like Judy Blum books being given to teens.
I also wanted to correct something in this arricle. A teenager can not have a sexual awakening, even if authors, like Judy Blum writes it that way or believe they can. Sexual awakening is based on mental stability and maturity. A 20 year old and up has a sexual awakening. I had a sexual awaking in my mid 20s and was able to discen what really aroused me and the type of men I was attracted too. I was introduced to sexual literature in my teen years and made descion based on what was being told to me about sex, and it was mistakened as sexual awakening but wasn't that, it was simply an introduction to someones point of view of sex.
A teenager makes descion based on information that is taught to them. Sex being introduced to an underdeveloped human being is not a sexual awakening, but an introduction The same way a 5 year old going through precosious puberty and sees p0rn for the first time isn't a sexual awakening. Their minds are still underdeveloped, so I was disappointed in this writer of this article who placed these together.
Next, There were plenty of authors from the 70s-2000s that wrote realistic expectation of adolescent puberty and development for girls that weren't like Judy Blum and responsibly left sexual imagery out, so the teen reading it could read it and genuinely understand their bodies and relate to the characters. If a parent needs help taking to their daughters about sexuality and puberty and development and don't know where to start as well as would like for it to be introduced to them without them feeling shame. Judy Blum was simply a popular author that added sexual imagery for teens with good humour, I admit, that people weren't that use to in that timing.
Please dont rely on a fictional books but on actual child psychologists and those who study child body development, especially for girls. If we, when we were young did this and went through terrible mistakes when we were young due to this. Lets not repeat it with the future generations of girls who may not be as lucky as us.
Check out podcasts and Instagram profiles like, Defend young minds. They also have fictional books.
If you'd like to focus more on girls as they navigate into womanhood, puberty, and other mental development made easy for you and your daughters to understand.
Check out one of the best research psychologist Sarah E Hill. She's discusses things about female development, puberty, mental health, and the mental components of sex for teenage girls and women in a non judgemental way and even discusses how to normalize giving yourself and teen girls grace as a female. She's on Instagram and has many videos on YouTube.
Lets normalize adults being responsible and wisely suggesting books to teen girls that cater to their demographics but don't irresponsibly handle it like many of Judy Blum books and books like Gender Queer.
I disagree with a lot here, but I'll just stick with a factual correction - the only one of Judy Blume's juvenile fiction books that involves characters having sex is "Forever," in which the characters are high school seniors who are at or above the age of consent in their state. (I know they turn eighteen somewhere during the book, but I can't remember if they have sex before or after they're both eighteen.) You can't have "child erotica" without a child, and there's an enormous difference in development and maturity between 11-to-13-year-olds and 17-and-18-year-olds.
Hello! Thank you for respectfully disagreeing. I want to first start out by saying your statement is based on legality terms. Meaning whatever the law deems is acceptable or not. Legality doesn't always equal factuality nor reality based on science.
An 17-18 year old is still teenager and mentally, emotionally, and physically underdeveloped. That's why I said child erotica.
The law in many countries has the age of consent for adulthood and sex as low as 9 years of age. In Malysia, the age of consent is 9-10 years of age and in many Islamic countries the age of consent for sex is as low as 8 years of age. This is legal.
Legality doesn't always allign with rationality, logic, morality, reality and science. There are also books, poems, and pictures of kids being featured in that way and the defense of that is "well their doing it anyway" or "it's realistic representation". I don't deny many children go through that especially based on the cultural, societal, and family structure they were raised in, however it should be taken into caution not to capitalize on that or hypersexualize/normalize those behaviors as ok, good, normal, justifiable, or not a big deal in art.
In many books like Gender Queer and many of Judy Blum books the ages of the characters ranger from 11-17 years of age and feature sexual imagery. That's child erotica no matter what the intent was and participates in the normalization of teens being viewed as adults, normalization of blame being put on them in situations like grooming or sexual assault, children viewing themselves as old enough to participate in adult activity which is sex, mental desentivity, child on child rape, dissociation, hypersexuality or disinterest in sex in adult years as well as the struggle to bond right in adult years if proper help isn't installed. That's why I made my comment.
A 20 year old and up are actual adults . I'm not basing this on legality which is simply what the law dictates as acceptable and lawful. I'm basing that on biology. A 20 year old woman and man are adults. Their bodies are fully developed and capable to handles the complexitues of sex and the about to properly consent to it, and not just doing it to feel good.
If parents, guardians, and teachers were a little more informed. They'd talk to their kids while their young within their mental and biological maturity about sex, their bodies, and what to expect as well as encouraging them to wait until adulthood in their 20 and up so they can make the proper informed descions.
Furthermore, I also left in my comment that we should not depend on fictional authors to be the navigating guide to help girls into womanhood or be content on being girls. Fictional authors write from their point of view and intergect whether a character will experience dire consequences of their actions or not, like the book Forever in which the characters did not experience dire consequences.
We are in a tech savy age where we can find actual child and teen psychologists for free and female Psychologist that discuss the joy of entering into womanhood with humor and relatability. I suggested a research psychologist named Sarah E Hill who's on Instagram and YouTube. She has stuff for teen girls/women and discusses these things and how to remember to show yourself grace and to normalize that behavior for yourselves even if no does.
The same goes with a Instagram profile named Defend Young Minds that discusses the nesscity of talking to kids/ teens about sex and how to have age appropriate conversations with them about their bodies.
When I was a teen I was introduced to young adult books then was introduced to sexual literature and smut literature. I was allowed to do this due to my appearance of maturity, but wasn't biologically mature enough for sexual literature.
My mature appearance of behavior was simply me adapting to my environment thus giving off a mature vibe but wasn't. Now as a woman I learn from my mistakes and practing not repeating them nor letting a child imitate them or enage in what I use to do, so that as adults, they won't make descions based on desentivity, dissociation, trauma, impulsiveness disguised as normality.
They will be able to make better descions using logic, rationality, love, and compassion for people and not view them as objects for their pleasure...or they will choose as adults to do their own thing, and if they do, their responsibille for themselves and will at least have mentally ingrained life skills to fall back on.
There are some people who argue that āpeopleās brains arenāt mature until theyāre 25, so if their brains arenāt mature, they canāt consent to sex.ā We could go back and forth about what constitutes the ārealā age of adulthood, but for legal purposes, there has to be some type of consensus, at least for a particular jurisdiction. I donāt think 20-year-olds are necessarily more physically developed than 18-year-olds. I had pretty much the exact same body, in terms of physical maturity - height, weight, bra size, menstrual cycle pattern - from 16 until I got pregnant at 27. People develop at different rates, but nearly everyone is done with puberty at 18, and as for emotional maturity and life skills, those things vary so much from person to person.
I was raised in a Catholic family where my mother (speaking for both herself and my father) emphasized that sex was a very serious thing and something that should wait until after marriage. āForeverā by Judy Blume actually helped convince me that teenage sex was a bad idea. Michael gave me the creeps - ugh, referring to his penis as āRalphā! - and it struck me as so tragic that Katherine had put so much thought and emotion into the decision of whether to have sex with him, only to have the two of them break up within months. I didnāt want to be Katherine. I didnāt want to share the most intimate parts of my body with someone - to actually let him inside my body - and then realize I didnāt want to be with him forever. Iām now married and my husband is the only sexual partner Iāve ever had, and vice versa. Weāre very happy.
I agree with literature expression, but I disagree with the normality and hypersexualiation of teen sex and teen sexual development. This article is a little bizarre to me, but I respect everyones right to an opinion. I simply wanted to input that I agree that teenage sexual development in fiction should be handled alot better for future generations, especially for girls as they enter into puberty.
However , I think it's ludicrous to give an underdeveloped human being that's still going through puberty and is mentally underveloped, highly emotional due to them entering the emotional phase of puberty and still figuring out who they are fictional books on teens "experimenting" with sexuality and trying to figure themselves out.
Teenage minds are like sponges and emotions tend to take the highroad over logic more than we can count at times, and defending a fictional book that has teen sex which should be really called 'child erotica'' regardless of it intent is no different than extreme liberals defending the "Gender Queer" book that was published and given out to minors regardless of parental permission.
The Gender Queer book featured gay "responsible" and "consensual" sex between 11-13 year old boys in pictures and writing as well as the normality of teen sexual curiosity. The justification of the Gender Queer book is similar to this article defense of Judy Blum books, which is "REALISTIC REPRESENTATION OF adolescent coming of age".
No matter the intent, one needs to be careful what they give to kids as it will have an affect on their still developing psyche and behavior.
I can better appreciate Judy Blum as an adult woman who can better separate fiction from reality and expectation from reality. A discussion should be had with teenagers while their young from the parent/ guardian, doctor and in some cases teachers on the realities of womanhood and what to expect when entering it, as well as sensitivity to one self as they go through it not defending or advocating for authors like Judy Blum books being given to teens.
I also wanted to correct something in this arricle. A teenager can not have a sexual awakening, even if authors, like Judy Blum writes it that way or believe they can. Sexual awakening is based on mental stability and maturity. A 20 year old and up has a sexual awakening. I had a sexual awaking in my mid 20s and was able to discen what really aroused me and the type of men I was attracted too. I was introduced to sexual literature in my teen years and made descion based on what was being told to me about sex, and it was mistakened as sexual awakening but wasn't that, it was simply an introduction to someones point of view of sex.
A teenager makes descion based on information that is taught to them. Sex being introduced to an underdeveloped human being is not a sexual awakening, but an introduction The same way a 5 year old going through precosious puberty and sees p0rn for the first time isn't a sexual awakening. Their minds are still underdeveloped, so I was disappointed in this writer of this article who placed these together.
Next, There were plenty of authors from the 70s-2000s that wrote realistic expectation of adolescent puberty and development for girls that weren't like Judy Blum and responsibly left sexual imagery out, so the teen reading it could read it and genuinely understand their bodies and relate to the characters. If a parent needs help taking to their daughters about sexuality and puberty and development and don't know where to start as well as would like for it to be introduced to them without them feeling shame. Judy Blum was simply a popular author that added sexual imagery for teens with good humour, I admit, that people weren't that use to in that timing.
Please dont rely on a fictional books but on actual child psychologists and those who study child body development, especially for girls. If we, when we were young did this and went through terrible mistakes when we were young due to this. Lets not repeat it with the future generations of girls who may not be as lucky as us.
Check out podcasts and Instagram profiles like, Defend young minds. They also have fictional books.
If you'd like to focus more on girls as they navigate into womanhood, puberty, and other mental development made easy for you and your daughters to understand.
Check out one of the best research psychologist Sarah E Hill. She's discusses things about female development, puberty, mental health, and the mental components of sex for teenage girls and women in a non judgemental way and even discusses how to normalize giving yourself and teen girls grace as a female. She's on Instagram and has many videos on YouTube.
Lets normalize adults being responsible and wisely suggesting books to teen girls that cater to their demographics but don't irresponsibly handle it like many of Judy Blum books and books like Gender Queer.
I disagree with a lot here, but I'll just stick with a factual correction - the only one of Judy Blume's juvenile fiction books that involves characters having sex is "Forever," in which the characters are high school seniors who are at or above the age of consent in their state. (I know they turn eighteen somewhere during the book, but I can't remember if they have sex before or after they're both eighteen.) You can't have "child erotica" without a child, and there's an enormous difference in development and maturity between 11-to-13-year-olds and 17-and-18-year-olds.
Hello! Thank you for respectfully disagreeing. I want to first start out by saying your statement is based on legality terms. Meaning whatever the law deems is acceptable or not. Legality doesn't always equal factuality nor reality based on science.
An 17-18 year old is still teenager and mentally, emotionally, and physically underdeveloped. That's why I said child erotica.
The law in many countries has the age of consent for adulthood and sex as low as 9 years of age. In Malysia, the age of consent is 9-10 years of age and in many Islamic countries the age of consent for sex is as low as 8 years of age. This is legal.
Legality doesn't always allign with rationality, logic, morality, reality and science. There are also books, poems, and pictures of kids being featured in that way and the defense of that is "well their doing it anyway" or "it's realistic representation". I don't deny many children go through that especially based on the cultural, societal, and family structure they were raised in, however it should be taken into caution not to capitalize on that or hypersexualize/normalize those behaviors as ok, good, normal, justifiable, or not a big deal in art.
In many books like Gender Queer and many of Judy Blum books the ages of the characters ranger from 11-17 years of age and feature sexual imagery. That's child erotica no matter what the intent was and participates in the normalization of teens being viewed as adults, normalization of blame being put on them in situations like grooming or sexual assault, children viewing themselves as old enough to participate in adult activity which is sex, mental desentivity, child on child rape, dissociation, hypersexuality or disinterest in sex in adult years as well as the struggle to bond right in adult years if proper help isn't installed. That's why I made my comment.
A 20 year old and up are actual adults . I'm not basing this on legality which is simply what the law dictates as acceptable and lawful. I'm basing that on biology. A 20 year old woman and man are adults. Their bodies are fully developed and capable to handles the complexitues of sex and the about to properly consent to it, and not just doing it to feel good.
If parents, guardians, and teachers were a little more informed. They'd talk to their kids while their young within their mental and biological maturity about sex, their bodies, and what to expect as well as encouraging them to wait until adulthood in their 20 and up so they can make the proper informed descions.
Furthermore, I also left in my comment that we should not depend on fictional authors to be the navigating guide to help girls into womanhood or be content on being girls. Fictional authors write from their point of view and intergect whether a character will experience dire consequences of their actions or not, like the book Forever in which the characters did not experience dire consequences.
We are in a tech savy age where we can find actual child and teen psychologists for free and female Psychologist that discuss the joy of entering into womanhood with humor and relatability. I suggested a research psychologist named Sarah E Hill who's on Instagram and YouTube. She has stuff for teen girls/women and discusses these things and how to remember to show yourself grace and to normalize that behavior for yourselves even if no does.
The same goes with a Instagram profile named Defend Young Minds that discusses the nesscity of talking to kids/ teens about sex and how to have age appropriate conversations with them about their bodies.
When I was a teen I was introduced to young adult books then was introduced to sexual literature and smut literature. I was allowed to do this due to my appearance of maturity, but wasn't biologically mature enough for sexual literature.
My mature appearance of behavior was simply me adapting to my environment thus giving off a mature vibe but wasn't. Now as a woman I learn from my mistakes and practing not repeating them nor letting a child imitate them or enage in what I use to do, so that as adults, they won't make descions based on desentivity, dissociation, trauma, impulsiveness disguised as normality.
They will be able to make better descions using logic, rationality, love, and compassion for people and not view them as objects for their pleasure...or they will choose as adults to do their own thing, and if they do, their responsibille for themselves and will at least have mentally ingrained life skills to fall back on.
There are some people who argue that āpeopleās brains arenāt mature until theyāre 25, so if their brains arenāt mature, they canāt consent to sex.ā We could go back and forth about what constitutes the ārealā age of adulthood, but for legal purposes, there has to be some type of consensus, at least for a particular jurisdiction. I donāt think 20-year-olds are necessarily more physically developed than 18-year-olds. I had pretty much the exact same body, in terms of physical maturity - height, weight, bra size, menstrual cycle pattern - from 16 until I got pregnant at 27. People develop at different rates, but nearly everyone is done with puberty at 18, and as for emotional maturity and life skills, those things vary so much from person to person.
I was raised in a Catholic family where my mother (speaking for both herself and my father) emphasized that sex was a very serious thing and something that should wait until after marriage. āForeverā by Judy Blume actually helped convince me that teenage sex was a bad idea. Michael gave me the creeps - ugh, referring to his penis as āRalphā! - and it struck me as so tragic that Katherine had put so much thought and emotion into the decision of whether to have sex with him, only to have the two of them break up within months. I didnāt want to be Katherine. I didnāt want to share the most intimate parts of my body with someone - to actually let him inside my body - and then realize I didnāt want to be with him forever. Iām now married and my husband is the only sexual partner Iāve ever had, and vice versa. Weāre very happy.