He was a sweet and generous spirit, and a man of sterling character. I had many questions about his life, but none were bigger than the one I have about his death. He was 39.
Thanks to Suzy for this very kind eulogy. My condolences to her and all of Max's family and friends for the loss of this remarkable man. Seems like Max and Sasha Chapin would have had a lot to talk about.
A good friend is a treasure forever. Their absence is felt, their memory is a joy. Be grateful you met him and had him in your life, if only for awhile, it will help lessen the grief.
I understand your feelings and sense of loss. I encourage you to use the formal Jewish mode of mourning. Saying Kaddish for each of the three daily prayer services. Marking the 30 day period. Then, because no one’s soul should need a full year of cleansing, stop at the 11 month period. Then mark the yartzheit at one year.
I remember going through it for my father. At every recitation of the Kaddish, memories were evoked. The most intense period was the initial week of almost complete isolation, then one month and then a year. By the time the year has passed, you have journeyed through your grief and are ready to re-engage in the pursuit of your life.
So sad that such a special person died so young. You were lucky to have a unique relationship with him.
Here in Israel we have tried to get used saying goodbye to so many young people killed in war we never asked for that intended to kill all of us, young and old, religious and secular. Yet you can never get used to the deaths of those cut down before they had a chance to live a full life. As I write this, I am tearing up remembering the funerals of friends children I have gone to the last year and a half. It never gets easy.
May Max's memory be a blessing. I will think of him when I wrap my tefillin tomorrow in Modiin.
🥲🥲🥲it’s been devastating for Israel and as a Jew in the diaspora my heart is broken for Israelis and the Jewish people. There are no words but please just know you are all in our hearts constantly 🇮🇱🇮🇱
Suzy, through the years I have gravitated towards people that some would call eccentric, and I called unique. I would have enjoyed meeting your friend. My condolences for your loss.
There are a lot of people dealing with what seems like senseless loss. I was raised in Pacific Palisades in my early years, a time when it truly was an idyllic neighborhood. Happy memories. Happiness is where you find your joy, but loss is where you sometimes find your strength. Hang in there.
In our tradition, upon someone’s death, we say, “Memory eternal.” And that’s the fear - being forgotten. You have been blessed with an unforgettable love and have shared him with us. I’ll *never* forget him and will, through him, remember others. You’ve served us all profoundly. Thank you.
I did not know Max but appreciate his unique life through this eloquent tribute.
Condolences. Max was obviously a very special man as you so dearly mention.
Thank you for sharing your love of him with us.
A beautiful tribute to your friend.
Oh I’m so sorry for this terrible loss. What a beautiful tribute for your remarkable friend. May his memory be for a blessing. 😕
thanks suzy.....max is now part of everyone who has read your beautiful eulogy....
Thanks to Suzy for this very kind eulogy. My condolences to her and all of Max's family and friends for the loss of this remarkable man. Seems like Max and Sasha Chapin would have had a lot to talk about.
My sincerest condolences Suzy...a great loss.
A good friend is a treasure forever. Their absence is felt, their memory is a joy. Be grateful you met him and had him in your life, if only for awhile, it will help lessen the grief.
Incredibly sad yet incredibly loving. RIP to your sweet, fun-loving friend Max.
I understand your feelings and sense of loss. I encourage you to use the formal Jewish mode of mourning. Saying Kaddish for each of the three daily prayer services. Marking the 30 day period. Then, because no one’s soul should need a full year of cleansing, stop at the 11 month period. Then mark the yartzheit at one year.
I remember going through it for my father. At every recitation of the Kaddish, memories were evoked. The most intense period was the initial week of almost complete isolation, then one month and then a year. By the time the year has passed, you have journeyed through your grief and are ready to re-engage in the pursuit of your life.
So sad that such a special person died so young. You were lucky to have a unique relationship with him.
Here in Israel we have tried to get used saying goodbye to so many young people killed in war we never asked for that intended to kill all of us, young and old, religious and secular. Yet you can never get used to the deaths of those cut down before they had a chance to live a full life. As I write this, I am tearing up remembering the funerals of friends children I have gone to the last year and a half. It never gets easy.
May Max's memory be a blessing. I will think of him when I wrap my tefillin tomorrow in Modiin.
🥲🥲🥲it’s been devastating for Israel and as a Jew in the diaspora my heart is broken for Israelis and the Jewish people. There are no words but please just know you are all in our hearts constantly 🇮🇱🇮🇱
May Max’s memory be a blessing… to all of us.
And you loved him. Now, he is missed by some who never met him.
Suzy, through the years I have gravitated towards people that some would call eccentric, and I called unique. I would have enjoyed meeting your friend. My condolences for your loss.
There are a lot of people dealing with what seems like senseless loss. I was raised in Pacific Palisades in my early years, a time when it truly was an idyllic neighborhood. Happy memories. Happiness is where you find your joy, but loss is where you sometimes find your strength. Hang in there.
In our tradition, upon someone’s death, we say, “Memory eternal.” And that’s the fear - being forgotten. You have been blessed with an unforgettable love and have shared him with us. I’ll *never* forget him and will, through him, remember others. You’ve served us all profoundly. Thank you.