Running The Free Press is Bari’s hobby, but her true passion is being a yenta. And one thing Bari has learned from talking to young singles is that there is a total breakdown of sexual relations these days between men and women.
Some blame social media, dating apps, or the alleged feminization of men. But Louise Perry blames the sexual revolution. In 2022, Louise wrote this for The Free Press: “The sexual revolution isn’t only a story of women freed from the burdens of chastity and motherhood. It’s a story about the triumph of the playboy.” This argument is the crux of her book, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, which has just been adapted for young adults—called A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century: The Young Adult Adaptation of ‘The Case Against the Sexual Revolution’.
This Valentine’s Day, Louise is here to explain how we went wrong as a society on dating, sex, porn, and marriage; how it is impacting women and men differently; how and if we can get back on track; how to date effectively in 2025; and how a revival of Christian sex ethics might be the answer.
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When women talk about these things, they bake in a lot of assumptions.
So women are more prone to care about feelings and less about truth, let's say that's true. Can they improve upon that? Can they be taught to cut out the canceling bullshit and learn to live with the discomforts of reality?
Let's say women are hypergamous. Can a female lawyer learn to love a male plumber? Can a 5'10" lady figure out how to be attracted to men shorter than her?
When women talk, the answers to all of these questions are assumed to be no. The Louise Perry viewpoint is deeply conservative in the sense that it assumes that women simply are the way they are and that societies should be tailored to their needs.
Conversely, the idea that men should be locked into a state of slavery to their own sexual desires in order to be molded into some more useful form is a different type of assumption. What if men who sit around and watch porn and play video games are happier than men who start a business and get married? Why is that wrong? Isn't in incumbent on a woman seeking a partner to prove that she's bringing more to the table than that low baseline?
Wow. I can almost hear the vomit gurgling in the back of Bari and Ms. Perrys throats as they confess that Christianity has done more for women and disabled than any other force in the world, that the military should be all men, that women are difficult to supervise, that women are censorious, that unlimited abortion is bad etc..... In some sense, women have made this problem over the past 60 years, and women will have to play a part in fixing it. ( I was thinking the other day that 60 years ago organized hating and despising of men did not exist as a thing and that it was essentially invented by the post-WWII womens movement) BTW: disclosure, I am a Bari fan and I liked what Ms. Perry was saying. They just sounded so darned apologetic for saying it.