OK I love hearing Caitlin's actual voice and wow I had no idea she was such an epic cancer survivor, but if anyone could beat it that long, Ms. Flanagan.
I just need to weigh in on the two men in question here.
Man seeking friends. It is so, so, so, so hard for men as they age. I honestly think his best bet is for him and his wife to socia…
OK I love hearing Caitlin's actual voice and wow I had no idea she was such an epic cancer survivor, but if anyone could beat it that long, Ms. Flanagan.
I just need to weigh in on the two men in question here.
Man seeking friends. It is so, so, so, so hard for men as they age. I honestly think his best bet is for him and his wife to socialize with other couples more and hopefully he really clicks with a fellow husband and they peel off. That seems the most likely. Other than, sports was a good suggestion. He will never make a friend at an American gym though. Sorry. That's not a thing (by and large).
Mother concernd for single son. This is the one I had the strongest reaction to. Caitlin is right about this: his mom needs to get the eff out of his personal life. She's probably already way too deep in his head, and that's part of his problem.
Here's my objection: I suspect he's not actually really dating. Maybe he's going on one offs but I believe her when she says he's not connecting with them. What I suspect he means is: They don't seem interested.
There's a lot of men who are just doomed out there. This is the hard truth. This is one of those things that no one wants to say out loud.
But guy with overinterested mom who decided to take a gentle, humane job like being a therapist? My guess is that in fact he is having a terrible time.
And no: Men are not hearing that and thinking he's won life. They would think that if he was going from short-term girlfriend to short-term girlfriend and his phone never stopped ringing, but that's not what we are hearing here.
I very much hope he finds a community of other dudes to hang with and that they find a mission to go on in life. It's probably time for him to look for life satisfaction elsewhere. One of the sad things about this world is that there isn't a great way for permanently single men to live with some dignity on this Earth.
I feel badly for this guy, but you are absolutely dead on that there is nothing his mother can do. She's probably done way too much already.
OK I love hearing Caitlin's actual voice and wow I had no idea she was such an epic cancer survivor, but if anyone could beat it that long, Ms. Flanagan.
I just need to weigh in on the two men in question here.
Man seeking friends. It is so, so, so, so hard for men as they age. I honestly think his best bet is for him and his wife to socialize with other couples more and hopefully he really clicks with a fellow husband and they peel off. That seems the most likely. Other than, sports was a good suggestion. He will never make a friend at an American gym though. Sorry. That's not a thing (by and large).
Mother concernd for single son. This is the one I had the strongest reaction to. Caitlin is right about this: his mom needs to get the eff out of his personal life. She's probably already way too deep in his head, and that's part of his problem.
Here's my objection: I suspect he's not actually really dating. Maybe he's going on one offs but I believe her when she says he's not connecting with them. What I suspect he means is: They don't seem interested.
There's a lot of men who are just doomed out there. This is the hard truth. This is one of those things that no one wants to say out loud.
But guy with overinterested mom who decided to take a gentle, humane job like being a therapist? My guess is that in fact he is having a terrible time.
And no: Men are not hearing that and thinking he's won life. They would think that if he was going from short-term girlfriend to short-term girlfriend and his phone never stopped ringing, but that's not what we are hearing here.
I very much hope he finds a community of other dudes to hang with and that they find a mission to go on in life. It's probably time for him to look for life satisfaction elsewhere. One of the sad things about this world is that there isn't a great way for permanently single men to live with some dignity on this Earth.
I feel badly for this guy, but you are absolutely dead on that there is nothing his mother can do. She's probably done way too much already.