Well, as a therapist, I was expecting to go to war with crappy advice. I find myself with very little to complain about... Rather disappointing.... I look forward to heckling the Free Press writers and podcast hosts. However, I did manage to have a problem with some of the things that you said.
Well, as a therapist, I was expecting to go to war with crappy advice. I find myself with very little to complain about... Rather disappointing.... I look forward to heckling the Free Press writers and podcast hosts. However, I did manage to have a problem with some of the things that you said.
Step daughter 13 only kid without a smartphone.
Why are parents bending to the peer pressure of teenagers? What do you think is best?
Until this point I haven’t had much disagreement. But telling step-parents to sit in the corner and shut up is fairly ignorant. I’ve had many therapy clients who viewed their stepmom or stepdad in the same light as a biological parent. At what point does refraining from any life advice communicate “I don’t care enough to be involved.”
Thoughtful measured disagreement isn’t undermining the bio dad and communicates that you care enough to pay attention.
Brothers best friend
Here I’m convinced Suzy and Caitlin don’t understand men. Like at all. I’m married but when I was single, I was interested in all women that I thought were pretty and who had a pulse. However, as a man, you don’t go around being a creep and hitting on every woman you see. Especially in the #metoo era. Also, many men aren't good at picking up on the very very subtle hints women drop. Or they see hints that aren't there. Every guy I know has a story where he thought a girl was dropping hints but she never was and they got shot down. It puzzles a lot of men why women refuse to be direct. He also likely considered her off limits as his friends sister. Crossing that line can lead to a physical fight depending on the age. That being said going after your brothers best friend who is dating someone else is very messy. But I would say its wrong to assume he would have expressed interest, and its wrong to assume he'll pick up on strangely indirect ways women choose to communicate interest.
The more I think about it, its the opposite of what Caitlin said, men and can subtly express interest in women and have them notice. Women don't always have that luxury.
Therapist Son
Again, Suzy and Caitlin don’t understand men. I see so many lonely men in therapy who want nothing more than to get married and have kids. But all they can find on Tinder are women who want to hook up. Most men don't consider the slutty men to be living the good life. Thats a shallow stereotype that all men just want to sleep around.
I disagree that parents should back off as soon as their kids are adults. I’ve seen parents intervene to save adult kids from domestic violence and abusive relationships. I have also talked to MANY MANY (caps are needed here) people in therapy that wasted years of their lives in shitty relationships, hit 35, had the window start to close on having kids, and deeply regret not having been more thoughtful about who they spent years of their life with. Or people who, in hindsight view their younger single years as time wasted. A nudge from mom and dad isn't a bad thing as long as it's measured, and they back off if the son tells them to.
Suzy, did you just say I don't know about being a therapist if you are a man? Oooooooo, why do you have a problem with men getting quality mental health care? As we have just seen clearly, women often have deficits in understanding men. I've surprisingly had women who were sexual assault survivors go to therapy and had a female therapist break down crying in front of them and then come to me for therapy. That has happened half a dozen times. I hear that one a lot for women, they wanted an unemotional therapist and found a male one.
That dude who wanted a date with Suzy made me think, have any of you picked up stalkers yet? You'll know the Free Press is a big deal when you start to progress from merely having superfans to attracting stalkers. I think it's more likely with the Free Press due to the degree to which you interact with your audience.
Would you believe me if I told you this long comment was me being succinct?
Well, as a therapist, I was expecting to go to war with crappy advice. I find myself with very little to complain about... Rather disappointing.... I look forward to heckling the Free Press writers and podcast hosts. However, I did manage to have a problem with some of the things that you said.
Step daughter 13 only kid without a smartphone.
Why are parents bending to the peer pressure of teenagers? What do you think is best?
Until this point I haven’t had much disagreement. But telling step-parents to sit in the corner and shut up is fairly ignorant. I’ve had many therapy clients who viewed their stepmom or stepdad in the same light as a biological parent. At what point does refraining from any life advice communicate “I don’t care enough to be involved.”
Thoughtful measured disagreement isn’t undermining the bio dad and communicates that you care enough to pay attention.
Brothers best friend
Here I’m convinced Suzy and Caitlin don’t understand men. Like at all. I’m married but when I was single, I was interested in all women that I thought were pretty and who had a pulse. However, as a man, you don’t go around being a creep and hitting on every woman you see. Especially in the #metoo era. Also, many men aren't good at picking up on the very very subtle hints women drop. Or they see hints that aren't there. Every guy I know has a story where he thought a girl was dropping hints but she never was and they got shot down. It puzzles a lot of men why women refuse to be direct. He also likely considered her off limits as his friends sister. Crossing that line can lead to a physical fight depending on the age. That being said going after your brothers best friend who is dating someone else is very messy. But I would say its wrong to assume he would have expressed interest, and its wrong to assume he'll pick up on strangely indirect ways women choose to communicate interest.
The more I think about it, its the opposite of what Caitlin said, men and can subtly express interest in women and have them notice. Women don't always have that luxury.
Therapist Son
Again, Suzy and Caitlin don’t understand men. I see so many lonely men in therapy who want nothing more than to get married and have kids. But all they can find on Tinder are women who want to hook up. Most men don't consider the slutty men to be living the good life. Thats a shallow stereotype that all men just want to sleep around.
I disagree that parents should back off as soon as their kids are adults. I’ve seen parents intervene to save adult kids from domestic violence and abusive relationships. I have also talked to MANY MANY (caps are needed here) people in therapy that wasted years of their lives in shitty relationships, hit 35, had the window start to close on having kids, and deeply regret not having been more thoughtful about who they spent years of their life with. Or people who, in hindsight view their younger single years as time wasted. A nudge from mom and dad isn't a bad thing as long as it's measured, and they back off if the son tells them to.
Suzy, did you just say I don't know about being a therapist if you are a man? Oooooooo, why do you have a problem with men getting quality mental health care? As we have just seen clearly, women often have deficits in understanding men. I've surprisingly had women who were sexual assault survivors go to therapy and had a female therapist break down crying in front of them and then come to me for therapy. That has happened half a dozen times. I hear that one a lot for women, they wanted an unemotional therapist and found a male one.
That dude who wanted a date with Suzy made me think, have any of you picked up stalkers yet? You'll know the Free Press is a big deal when you start to progress from merely having superfans to attracting stalkers. I think it's more likely with the Free Press due to the degree to which you interact with your audience.
Would you believe me if I told you this long comment was me being succinct?