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John Bingham's avatar

As with all things, men show higher variability than women. The men who are dying deaths of despair are not happy, but other men are doing better than women, at least in the relative sense.

At this point “trying to scare women into sleeping with men” is indistinguishable with stating basic facts about the human condition.

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Helen Lyon's avatar

"A relative sense" is one hell of a way to sweep despair and mass suicide under the rug. I thought women hated each other but men must absolutely loathe and despise each other that you're this desperate to whitewash porn addiction and the male suicide rate. Otoh it makes sense as intrasexual competition; you don't want anyone thinking about the dead ones so long as you can pretend everything is fine and get laid.

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John Bingham's avatar

Porn addiction is not real.

Mass suicide is an exaggeration, but it is indeed true that deaths of despair (a term coined to include suicide, drug overdose, drug-related liver disease, etc.) overwhelmingly affect men. And there are of course many deep societal factors stacked against men to produce this outcome, including many that Rob Henderson is hinting at here.

And boy are you miles off with what you're projecting on me.

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Helen Lyon's avatar

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

Porn addiction is absolutely real. You can get addicted to anything that hijacks your dopamine receptors, which is how people get addicted to carbs and smartphones. Stop making excuses for porn. My ex-boyfriends were so ruined by porn that they all eventually confessed that they were unable to feel attraction towards me because they only wanted to jerk off to videos. It's horrible.

That's exactly why I think Rob Henderson is being really pathetic and underhanded. Instead of addressing these issues and coming up with solutions he's whining about how women need commit because otherwise we'll lose males.... to VR porn. He's advertising for pornography and trying to intimidate women into forming half hearted "relationships" with addicts. He might as well demand we sleep with coke users.

I have you figured down to the letter.

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John Bingham's avatar

Rob is essentially right that women acting in their perceived short-term interests produces disastrous outcomes for everyone, and they would be well advised to do what men have always done and learn to resist our baser urges and-as he puts it-settle.

Your lack of insight is unfortunate, but not something I feel compelled to make any further effort to remedy. Try to have an open mind.

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Helen Lyon's avatar

"Please please please please have sex with me! I'll become a porn addict and waste my life fapping to VR if you don't! It's all your fault that I'm depressed and lie on polls and surveys!"

Selfish, short sighted, and lying about the emotional problems that males face. This is pathetic.

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John Bingham's avatar

The emotional problems that men face are often caused by abusive behavior like what you’re displaying. Fortunately, I’m not affected by it as much as other people you may have harmed.

Neither Rob nor I is begging any woman to have sex with us personally. Quite the contrary.

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Helen Lyon's avatar

You're trying to cover up porn addiction becsuse you're trying to pass responsibility off of addicts unfit for human relationships. You are doing this because you want to scapegoat someone for your problems, in this case me. (Don't forget that you barged in here making pathetic excuses.) Now that someone has caught on to your game you're trying to label it "abuse" so that you can cry victim.

You aren't any different from a drug dealer except you're pimping a different dopamine hijacker. Go bother someone else if you want to snivel and whine about how persecuted you are.

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John Bingham's avatar

I’m not persecuted, mainly because the people trying (like you) have failed.

I have no desire to cover up anything; “porn addiction” is a diversion from societal failures that actually destroy relationships. There are problems in education, in employment, in the justice system, in the media, etc. Considering people whose lives have been destroyed as “porn addicts” is demeaning to their actual struggles.

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Helen Lyon's avatar

This is the most disgustingly leftist victimhood narrative I have seen in a long time. Are you going to set up a porn distribution center so that addicts can use safely, like "harm reduction" sites in San Fran handing out clean needles to shoot up with? Denying porn's effects on the brain is like denying cocaine's effects on your brain. Sure, it stems out of emotional and psychological problems but denying addiction is evil and disgusting.

Good luck with whatever porn scam you're running, I hope the money you get out of stealing money from lonely males is enough to make up for the lives you want to ruin.

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John Bingham's avatar

I'm not running any porn scam, but I certainly support anyone who makes the decision to utilize pornography (which is largely free) to either supplement or replace a relationship situation that does not meet their needs.

And I am ideologically left-leaning, but not "woke", which leaves me in a position to see the ideological derangement which has affected women more than men and has had disastrous effects on normal human relationships.

I don't blame anyone who wants to opt out. We're all victims of the prevailing ideology, and it's up to individuals to resist it in order to live a better life.

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