what enables someone to be resilient? What factors or character traits will help a person be resilient vs what leads someone to stay rooted in "trauma" or PTSD.
A main factor is whether the person takes on the "victim" role or not. If you view yourself as a victim and take that on as a regular thought or eve…
what enables someone to be resilient? What factors or character traits will help a person be resilient vs what leads someone to stay rooted in "trauma" or PTSD.
A main factor is whether the person takes on the "victim" role or not. If you view yourself as a victim and take that on as a regular thought or even identity, you are much more likely to have the events or circumstances remain paramount in your life and to continue to affect or limit you. This is the main reason I hate it that our current culture delights in labeling people as "victims". As if we are being kind or helpful with that label. When is "victim" ever an empowering label or identity?? Labels that disempower a person or a group are a negative thing.
Brianna is a good example of resiliency.
A second issue they discussed: the way to shut down conversation - what are we doing that shuts down conversation or compromise amongst each other> Brianna points out we need to acknowledge and respect each other's humanity. I agree. The other way to put this: once you label the other person "amoral" or "immoral" - you have shut down any conversation. You can't "converse" with immorality. When we label each other and start talking in terms of morality (bigot, racist, and yes, 'Hitler', etc) we are not going to converse or ever get to a compromise. Again, as Brianna points out, we must see each other's humanity and make the effort to understand where that person is coming from, what they value. Our sound bite culture does not make this easy.
Two issues that were discussed:
what enables someone to be resilient? What factors or character traits will help a person be resilient vs what leads someone to stay rooted in "trauma" or PTSD.
A main factor is whether the person takes on the "victim" role or not. If you view yourself as a victim and take that on as a regular thought or even identity, you are much more likely to have the events or circumstances remain paramount in your life and to continue to affect or limit you. This is the main reason I hate it that our current culture delights in labeling people as "victims". As if we are being kind or helpful with that label. When is "victim" ever an empowering label or identity?? Labels that disempower a person or a group are a negative thing.
Brianna is a good example of resiliency.
A second issue they discussed: the way to shut down conversation - what are we doing that shuts down conversation or compromise amongst each other> Brianna points out we need to acknowledge and respect each other's humanity. I agree. The other way to put this: once you label the other person "amoral" or "immoral" - you have shut down any conversation. You can't "converse" with immorality. When we label each other and start talking in terms of morality (bigot, racist, and yes, 'Hitler', etc) we are not going to converse or ever get to a compromise. Again, as Brianna points out, we must see each other's humanity and make the effort to understand where that person is coming from, what they value. Our sound bite culture does not make this easy.