The addition of a second child is not arithmetic, its geometric. Just embrace it. Whatever you do there will never be enough of you to go around - enjoy it because one day they will leave the house. That being said, ask yourself at every moment, what is more important? The dishes or reading my chlld a book. (The dishes can wait for a few…
The addition of a second child is not arithmetic, its geometric. Just embrace it. Whatever you do there will never be enough of you to go around - enjoy it because one day they will leave the house. That being said, ask yourself at every moment, what is more important? The dishes or reading my chlld a book. (The dishes can wait for a few minutes). I wish I had lived by that more. Be a team, divide and conquer. Reward behavior you do want, not behavior you don't. If you can, (& it's not dangerous) disengage from tantrums and behaviors you don't want, don't feed them with positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement. Children would rather be praised than punished, but they would rather be punished than ignored. Laugh, a lot!! You will need it. Boys? Boys are awesome - what you see is what you get. They are not at all like girls. They will chew a piece of toast into a gun shape - they just will. Channel that into protectiveness instead of mere aggression. Buckle your seat belts - you are in for a lovely, bumpy ride!
The addition of a second child is not arithmetic, its geometric. Just embrace it. Whatever you do there will never be enough of you to go around - enjoy it because one day they will leave the house. That being said, ask yourself at every moment, what is more important? The dishes or reading my chlld a book. (The dishes can wait for a few minutes). I wish I had lived by that more. Be a team, divide and conquer. Reward behavior you do want, not behavior you don't. If you can, (& it's not dangerous) disengage from tantrums and behaviors you don't want, don't feed them with positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement. Children would rather be praised than punished, but they would rather be punished than ignored. Laugh, a lot!! You will need it. Boys? Boys are awesome - what you see is what you get. They are not at all like girls. They will chew a piece of toast into a gun shape - they just will. Channel that into protectiveness instead of mere aggression. Buckle your seat belts - you are in for a lovely, bumpy ride!