I have 3 girls age 9, 11, and 21. Didn't realize at the time but I did the GenX lawnmower parenting thing with my GenZ daughter (poster child for what went wrong). We spent years in hospitals with her. Then in 2017, with a 2 year old and pregnant with #3, I began my in depth research into what the hell happened. I realized a big part of …
I have 3 girls age 9, 11, and 21. Didn't realize at the time but I did the GenX lawnmower parenting thing with my GenZ daughter (poster child for what went wrong). We spent years in hospitals with her. Then in 2017, with a 2 year old and pregnant with #3, I began my in depth research into what the hell happened. I realized a big part of her downfall was me and my parenting, and the culture that led me there... literally Jonathan Haidt's thesis. That was me, including the phones, etc.
With 2 more girls fresh out of the oven I decided to do a little A/B testing. I basically became a lot more conservative. I started following Bari and all her contemporary heterodox peeps, which of course branded me a "MAGA republican" by my community... Called a "psychopath" for very clearly telling my young girls they cant have dicks, so dont bother asking 😆
The test results are in. B is the clear winner! My oldest is going to be ok (after $300K cash spent on treatment), but the younger ones will never come even close to falling that hard in that way.
Best advice you will ever receive... grab that wooden spoon! (Metaphorically"ish" 😉)
My additional two cents? Sports, sports, and more sports! I was never into sports AT ALL (true story... started the "walking club" at Andover to get credit for smoking cigs in the woods). Now I coach 5th grade bball, play tennis with the girls on weekends, kayak, sail, soccer, all of it. They dont get a choice! And they have grown to love it, as have I. Countless benefits. Especially for girls! Lean in... you won't regret it.
I have 3 girls age 9, 11, and 21. Didn't realize at the time but I did the GenX lawnmower parenting thing with my GenZ daughter (poster child for what went wrong). We spent years in hospitals with her. Then in 2017, with a 2 year old and pregnant with #3, I began my in depth research into what the hell happened. I realized a big part of her downfall was me and my parenting, and the culture that led me there... literally Jonathan Haidt's thesis. That was me, including the phones, etc.
With 2 more girls fresh out of the oven I decided to do a little A/B testing. I basically became a lot more conservative. I started following Bari and all her contemporary heterodox peeps, which of course branded me a "MAGA republican" by my community... Called a "psychopath" for very clearly telling my young girls they cant have dicks, so dont bother asking 😆
The test results are in. B is the clear winner! My oldest is going to be ok (after $300K cash spent on treatment), but the younger ones will never come even close to falling that hard in that way.
Best advice you will ever receive... grab that wooden spoon! (Metaphorically"ish" 😉)
My additional two cents? Sports, sports, and more sports! I was never into sports AT ALL (true story... started the "walking club" at Andover to get credit for smoking cigs in the woods). Now I coach 5th grade bball, play tennis with the girls on weekends, kayak, sail, soccer, all of it. They dont get a choice! And they have grown to love it, as have I. Countless benefits. Especially for girls! Lean in... you won't regret it.
Best of luck you two!