a few things I learned when 2,3, and 4 arrived after 1. When we had our second child, there was a lot of "the baby has to sleep so let's play the quiet game. Or "yes, I know we have had pasta for 3 nights because the baby's been up all night and I haven't slept in days so you have to eat it again; or "we have to do this because of the ba…
a few things I learned when 2,3, and 4 arrived after 1. When we had our second child, there was a lot of "the baby has to sleep so let's play the quiet game. Or "yes, I know we have had pasta for 3 nights because the baby's been up all night and I haven't slept in days so you have to eat it again; or "we have to do this because of the baby needs" etc. etc. . Then I realized this was a bit, well real, and kind of unequal in expecting child # 1 to always be waiting, developing patience, learning to yield, thinking of others 24/7. So I started to say things to the baby - yeah I know but as a pleasant fiction it worked to help child # 1 adjust to no longer being the center of attention. So, to baby I would say, "baby, you have to sit tight and wait until I help child # 1 learn how to tie shoes or baby, it's child #1'turn to sit on my lap and read a book, or baby, we are going to take child # 1 to school right now. When child # 1 heard that baby "had to" wait, go along with, share etc. child # 1's adjustment and co-operation expanded.
~ Efficiency is the bane of childhood. just remember this. It helps to reorient one's parental compass and actions.
~ get yourselves a copy of Haim G. Ginott's book Between parent and child.
~ nurture and develop a spiritual life in your family and children. I am Christian . Having my children take part in a spiritual life has given them a faith that helps them in life and to help others. Their faith is there in good and bad times.
a few things I learned when 2,3, and 4 arrived after 1. When we had our second child, there was a lot of "the baby has to sleep so let's play the quiet game. Or "yes, I know we have had pasta for 3 nights because the baby's been up all night and I haven't slept in days so you have to eat it again; or "we have to do this because of the baby needs" etc. etc. . Then I realized this was a bit, well real, and kind of unequal in expecting child # 1 to always be waiting, developing patience, learning to yield, thinking of others 24/7. So I started to say things to the baby - yeah I know but as a pleasant fiction it worked to help child # 1 adjust to no longer being the center of attention. So, to baby I would say, "baby, you have to sit tight and wait until I help child # 1 learn how to tie shoes or baby, it's child #1'turn to sit on my lap and read a book, or baby, we are going to take child # 1 to school right now. When child # 1 heard that baby "had to" wait, go along with, share etc. child # 1's adjustment and co-operation expanded.
~ Efficiency is the bane of childhood. just remember this. It helps to reorient one's parental compass and actions.
~ get yourselves a copy of Haim G. Ginott's book Between parent and child.
~ nurture and develop a spiritual life in your family and children. I am Christian . Having my children take part in a spiritual life has given them a faith that helps them in life and to help others. Their faith is there in good and bad times.
Congratulations to everyone in your family!